05 March 2011

let's have some fun

Is flirting cheating? Now think this one over for a bit, I'm not talkin about running into a hot starbucks barista and casually flirting... I'm talking about man-hunting a flirt buddy. I've been thinking about the things that I do and what it means by doing them. I like flirting or sending lustful glares at a hottie when I'm out and about, so I'm trying to analyze what exactly is going on here. I asked myself whether or not flirting or lustfully glaring at someone is cheating and I didn't know how to answer. Hmmm, this one I'm going to mull over for a bit.

So when I read this well written steamy adventure on BI LIKE ME, it stuck in my mind. I've personally always wanted a full body massage, especially now with me kicking my own ass at the gym and running around work like a crazy person, I could use the relaxation. Lately I've thought to myself about going to a spa, sauna or getting a massage and since I think about sex every 10 seconds, those thoughts of relaxation mixed with thoughts of debauchery. A poll on my blog revealed that half of you thought that 'happy endings' constituted cheating. The other half didn't and it made me wonder if 'happy endings' were a common place. (BTW I only had 4 votes, come on people!) I thought it was just a gag for tv and movies or something that didn't really happen too often and only in seedy places. I wonder if there is someone who does such things in my area? I'm not judging either because I think it's hott especially how BLM writes about it, it's just something that floated my boat.

FoC was a sweetheart, I can't believe I didn't tell you guys. For Valentines day he shot me over a little digital card and another Amazon giftcard. He's spoiling me which is not a good thing bc lets face it... I'm already too spoiled. (Thanks again Mr. FoC!) I decided that I wasn't going to spend it on items to fill my bum with, but rather spend it on things to fill my soul with. (Soul... not the hole ;) ) I'm talking of course about music. Here's what I've gotten so far.

Valerie by Amy Winehouse, Doo-Wops & Hooligans by Bruno Mars, Teenage Dream by Katy Perry, Songs by Gnarls Barkley, Cee Lo Green, M.I.A, Black Eyed Peas, The Cardigans, Erykah Badu, Nicki Minaj, Joss Stone, Kanye West and Far East movement.

I jam to that Amy Winehouse/Mark Ronson song on a daily basis, it's such a great song. Here's another good one too, I just bought this one. Yeah, music is great especially when certain songs put you in certain moods. My new playlist is putting me in the mood to be creative.

I haven't figured out just yet how I plan on accomplishing it, but I would like to design and make clothes. I would like to make clothes, at least for myself since I have some ideas and have not really seen what I want at the store. I <3 Urban outfitters but they seem a little pretentious and very expensive, so if I can rack my brain for ideas and scour the internet for some know how, I think that I can come up with something. I already filled my wall with pop crap art and I'm quite happy with how it's turned out... now I just need to refine my craft and see what I end up doing. I have this dream of having my own clothing store/line that is fun, stylish and inexpensive. Whatever at this point I'm just fantasizing, but it would be nice to be creative and be my own boss. Right now I'm a slave (not the good kind) to my job and I'm consumed by stress, so naturally I obsess and fantasize these outlandish scenarios.

Well now that I've confessed my foolish dreams (that I've not told anyone) I'm gonna get going. I've got a book to write, a canvas to paint and porn that needs to be watched. TTYL guys and gals. Now where's my lotion? lol. B♂bby


  1. Bobby: Most "happy endings" require extra payment, like a tip for good service. You can give yourself a lot of happy endings but I guess it's a different sensation to be on the receiving end.

    Fashion design might be a good hobby for you since you like clothes and accessories so much. See if your local community college has courses you can take. Then you can audition for Project Runway. It's kind of cliche, the gay/bi fashion designer but you can pull it off.

  2. OMG I love Project Runway. Tim Gun is the bitch awesome and I love him. I doubt that I'll be auditioning for the show though, :). If I ever did get a happy ending, it would be with a male masseuse, the orgasm would be more intense.

  3. Depending on how highly strung someone is, you constitutes cheating for something stupid like pro-longed eye contact. Some people are that neurotic.

    Personally, I don't consider having sex with someone else cheating. For me, only if my partner was to develop emotional feelings for someone else, would I consider I have been cheated.

  4. Bobby:

    Is a happy ending cheating? Of course it is Bobby! Anything you can't tell your partner about, whether it is cute flirts online, looking at porn or a happy ending is in fact, cheating that relationship. The fact that I do it, well..doesn't mean it's not cheating.

    Did you tell your partner about your salacious flirt in a comment on my blog: that you were probably "my type?" Doubt it...but..if you're ever in NY, let me know. Maybe I'll give you that happy ending you've been looking for! lol

    Thanks for writing about my post ;)